When Double Standards Strike

I am in no way a Pop Culture Critic, but when you heard enough from the music industry you start to hear connections. Today during work a song came on the speakers. Pretty catchy song, Two Black Cadillacs by Carrie Underwood, one of my faves, I daresay. When I suddenly noticed a trend. Two Black Cadillacs is a song (and video) about two women (her and the guys mistress) who ran over and killed their ex because he had a girl on the side and lied to them. Not only that, but the song then goes on to say that they felt absolutely no remorse for their actions, and never got repercussions for their actions. I will link the songs below. This isn't the first kind of song like that by Carrie Underwood, who also wrote the song Before He Cheats, which is about her destroying her ex's brand new car as revenge for him cheating.

This isn't the first time I have heard a song like this. Lily Allen made a music video for her hit song Smile, which is nothing but her drugging, hiring people to assault, and vandalizing the home of and as a result ruining the career of, her ex boyfriend. Katy Perry has the song Hot n Cold with a video describing her and her friends running after and harassing a guy for having second thoughts. Her song Ur So Gay is a song that makes fun of her boyfriend for being too effeminate, although I can take this song as parody. Goodbye Earl by the Dixie Chicks, on the other hand, is all about murdering her abusive ex. Blu Cantrell sang a wonderful piece about spending all of your boyfriends money if he cheats on you, as if theft is an appropriate response to your boyfriend cheating.

I find it funny how Miranda Lambert can write a song about blowing away her ex in Gunpowder and Lead, but if a guy were to sing a song about hitting his abusive, stalker girlfriend, it would be a world of scorn.  Just imagine how bitterly angry it would make people if a man sang a song about how he put a bullet through his ex's head for abusing him? You have movies like the First Wives Club, where the girls were divorced, and then decided to go after the guys and force them to pay alimony for the rest of their lives and threatened to completely ruin them because they felt hurt. But any similar story of a guy doing that to a girl would garner mob riots.

Bust your Windows by Jazmine Sullivan is another good song about vandalizing your ex boyfriends property for breaking your heart. I think the only song I have heard doesn't help anybody, as it is a song of pure violence by Eminem called Kim, where he sings about destroying his Ex. I have not seen that many instances in video, movies, songs, etc, of men taking some form of revenge against their Ex girlfriends. Of the few I have found, like Half Your Age and Cry Me a River are pretty mild songs. Guys don't seem to make that many songs about taking revenge on girlfriends it seems, but it seems that girlfriends are OK with writing incredibly violent numbers against their male ex's.

Apparently it takes quite a powerful patriarchy to allow songs of women beating, stealing, vandalizing the property of, and even outright murdering their male ex's on the public radio, but there is basically no songs about exacted male-on-female revenge, and certainly not flooded the way female-on-male revenge is. Women stealing from, vandalizing the property of, beating, and killing men is considered female empowerment, but men doing the same things under the same circumstances is patriarchal oppression of women.

What are your thoughts on this?

Songs

Two Black Cadillacs: www.youtube.com/watch?v=oVEBZL…
Smile: www.youtube.com/watch?v=0WxDrV…
Hot n Cold: www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTHNpu…
Ur So Gay: www.youtube.com/watch?v=tWbLkX…
Goodbye Earl: www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gw7gNf…
Hit 'Em Up Style: www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMOKlX…
Gunpowder and Lead: www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMMTx2…
Bust Your Windows: www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOzdfa…
Kim: www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNXYvi…
Half Your Age: www.youtube.com/watch?v=g2W1ED…
Cry Me a River: www.youtube.com/watch?v=4DsPrE…